How many people have treated you like crap and never apologized?
Ever have any family squabbles (if you haven’t will you adopt me??) where the wronged party never gets an apology?
I have had family members gossip behind my back like its the bloody cold war and when I confronted the family member; like a little child who gets reprimanded they refused to talk to me.
How about this one; 3 year old Susie slaps little Johnny on his face for no good reason, and her parent says, “Susie, you need to apologize to Johnny” but little Susie defiantly grits her teeth and says, “NO!”.
Yesterday on NPR a new research study was discussed on the topic of apologizing.
Here’s the kicker, according to psychologist Tyler Okimoto, “We do find that apologies do make apologizers feel better, but the interesting thing is that refusals to apologize also make people feel better and, in fact, in some cases it makes them feel better than an apology would have,”
So that’s it then; by not apologizing for having wronged someone; it makes the offender feel even better than if they had apologized!
How sick is that?!
By refusing to apologize it “actually makes you feel more empowered”
Well this pretty much sucks doesn’t it?
So here I was thinking that these people who have treated me like s**t and who haven’t apologized are all wallowing in misery but the truth of the matter is in the midst of their meanness they received a nice little dose of empowerment!
What’s the moral of this story??
–Treat Kenny like s**t, don’t apologize, and you’ll feel good about yourself.
Holy crap that sucks!
I think I’ll go crawl into bed right now……..