One of the coffee houses I frequent happens to be a hangout for quite a few local school teachers and professors.
Some evenings while I’m there sipping a dark roast I feel like I’ve been squeezed shoulder-to-shoulder into the faculty lounge….and no Virginia; I’m not the type of student that should be in the faculty lounge!
On one particular occasion a while back I was drawn into a conversation with an early 30-something middle school math teacher. I don’t want to bash her in my post, but she’s the type of teacher that knows it all (okay so I just bashed her; sorry!).
Me having an inquisitive nature about myself (d**n my nature! it gets me into trouble!) started asking her about her teaching philosophy to which she smiled really big and said. “I’ve developed a strategy that is really effective; I never look at the students”.
She caught me off guard as I’ve never heard such nonsense before.
“You never look at your students?”
“Well, of course I smile at them when they are seating themselves, but no, once I begin my lecture I always face the dry-erase board and present the lesson for the day”.
Apparently, this young woman is convinced that the most effective method of teaching her students is to convey no sense of personality or warmth to her students whatsoever. She see’s herself as nothing more than a robotic lecturer, placed in the classroom to teach algebraic equations.
I really wanted to ask her some serious questions about her style but I had seen her around the cafe enough to know that if I pursued the subject it would be like talking to a brick wall.
Math is my worst subject.
In college I graduated with a 3.93 and guess what were the only two classes I didn’t get A’s in; Algebra 2 & Statistics!
Had this young woman been my college math prof I would have flunked out of both classes.
Please don’t think I’m throwing all teachers under the bus in this post.
I’m only suggesting that the ones who think they know-it-all; are really annoying!
Maybe some kids like the emotionless teacher. Maybe they learn better if the teacher acts like they don’t give a s**t about the student.
I am not one of those students.
I thrive in conditions of warmth; in settings where I’m surrounded by people who care.
This young woman represented more than just the teaching profession,
she reminded me of;
1) bosses who do things their way and refuse to hear criticism.
2) managers who are control freaks and over-manage their employees.
3) over-bearing parents who refuse to give their children a more relaxed environment.
4) friends and relatives who never progress, who always stay at the same place in their life because they are stubborn.
We live in a world of know-it-all’s.
It gets really old.
They won’t listen because they know-it-all.
And quite often I feel like I did when sitting with that teacher, I want to demonstrate my math skills;
“1 potato, 2 potato, 3 potato, smack me in the face now please!”
I think I’ll go get another cup of coffee.
~~~are there people in your life who are stubborn? bosses who don’t listen? managers who drive you nuts? co-workers or family who know-it-all?