I live in America, a country where quite often; more time is spent focusing on the evils of public nudity than poverty and homelessness.
And then we come to gossip.
Do your relatives gossip? Mine sure do.
I come from a fundamentalist christian background; by that I mean that my family and fellow church members growing up were/are a bunch of know-it-all’s who never learned the definition of ‘listening’.
The churches I attended spent more time preaching from the pulpit against the evils of sex before marriage, the evils of rock music, the evils of hanging out with non-fundamentalist Christians,the evils of smoking, the evils of….I think you get the idea!
However, I would wager to say that it is gossip that does more harm within families and within churches than nearly any of the social evils my fundamentalist forefathers railed against.
Gossip tears at the very fabric of love that is supposed to bind us together.
I have 9 siblings, 10 if you count the fact that the day after my father’s funeral in 2008 I found a birth certificate for a son he had in Mexico who my dad somehow never told me about!
Thus, in a family of 9 siblings you can imagine how much havoc gossip can wreak within a very short time.
My wife only has 2 siblings and yet even in a small family gossip can result in lifelong consequences.
When I wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, the emotional scars that gossip has wreaked upon my life are a constant reminder at how awful it is to gossip.
To be honest , I’m still not ready to completely open up publicly and discuss the way in which gossip has harmed my wife and I; I’m still in recovery.
However, I’m moving forward. I’m teaching my children;
to accept others as they are
to love and not condemn
to forgive and not to hold grudges
Maybe the scars of gossip will never heal in my life.
But that is okay.
They are a constant reminder to me to never do the same towards others.
1) Have you felt the sting of people who gossiped about you?
2) Were you the one who did the gossiping?
3) How did you move on and recover from those emotional scars?