Yesterday a kind reader to my blog mentioned the subject of relevance in their comment.
I think about relevance a lot.
You see, we all want to be relevant.
Relevance is like a lamppost – without the lamp we are bumping into things in the dark – The lamppost is relevant to our life
Do you have parents? You want to be relevant to them;
1) you want your parents to love you
2) you want your parents to listen to you
3) you want your parents to value you for your opinions and not to walk all over you
Do you have children? You want to be relevant to them;
1) you want your children to love you
2) you want your children to listen to you
3) you want your children to value you for your opinions and not to walk away when your talking to them
Whether we actually think about this, its a very true element of life.
Some psychologists call it ‘significance’.
In the blogging world we like to be relevant too!
Sure, I don’t think every blogger wants to have a million followers (BTW don’t forget to Like my Facebook page lol, just kidding….(no really please Like my Facebook page lol)) but when you put work into a blog you hope there are a few people out there who care to read what you have to say.
When we don’t feel like we are relevant to someone….it can open up the door to depression….we can feel isolated….lonely..
Imagine what its like when your spouse, or boyfriend or girlfriend no longer feels your relevant to their life? I suspect it can play a role in the many divorces and breakups we see in the Western World.
So where do you find relevance from?
Do you feel relevant? Why/Why Not?
Working as a counselor for so long, I have seen way too many cases of depression. Counselors and therapists are overburdened with the number of people struggling with depression; its become an epidemic.
While medication can help……most often what people need is to be loved; to feel relevant.