by Kenneth Justice
~Last week I received four different phone calls from clients……not my clients; the clients of a relative of mine.
Apparently, my relative is no longer answering their business phone…3 of the clients have been calling for as much as 3 months, leaving messages…and they can’t get any response.
They told me they are taking their business elsewhere.
I don’t blame them.
I probably wouldn’t have stuck in there for 3 months! After a couple days of no response I would have bailed and found a new company to deal with; a company that answers the phone!
In another lifetime I used to work at this particular company and although I’m no longer connected to the company; I had 15 + years of client-customer relationships with these people and because its my relative who owns the company; the client’s felt the need to call me and let me know they were bailing.
Clearly something is going on with my relative; I don’t know what, I could speculate…..but it doesn’t really matter; clearly this relative of mine has lost their way in life and their company is quickly fading.
Obviously I’m leaving out a few details to save my relative any embarrassment; suffice to say…..my relative has lost their way in life….they’ve lost direction…..
Losing our way in life isn’t merely limited to the business world….I think we all know this; when we lose our direction it can cause us to feel like we are spinning in a million directions; as though we are a ship with no captain.
When we are contemplating a big move; from one city to another…from one state to another…or even to a new country; we may be feeling a little lost…or a little scared…. apprehensiveness is normal.
As humans…we like it when everything is in a box; we can hold a box, we can peer in it to see it’s contents…..a box of something doesn’t scare us…..
but life is not a box…..
Life has many twists and turns; the direction we take after high school and college can end up leading somewhere altogether and different.
Sometimes life heads in a direction we like….sometimes it does not.
How will we deal with disappointment?
How will we deal with success? What if we are successful at something we don’t enjoy?
Many times when the subject of life course is discussed it is done so in the parameters of young people; what college degree will you pursue or what career in life do you want?
But what about people who are retiring? Where is their life course taking them? People over the age of 60 can sometimes feel just as lost as an 18 year old has just graduated high school, asking themselves; what now?
Some of us had parents who drilled it into our heads, “THIS is what you will do, no questions, JUST DO IT!”…….
So….we did it….and now years later we are miserable…we’ve lost direction.
Others had parents who were laid back, “Hey, just do what you enjoy…do what you love”…..
But, doing what we love hasn’t filled up our savings account, perhaps it has taken us away from friends, perhaps it has left us wondering…..what now?
Perhaps we are newly divorced, or maybe our spouse just died…..we’re left sitting in our living room asking ourselves….what now?
Conversation is one key…..talking with others….bouncing ideas off each other…..positive communication can help us begin steering the ship back on course.
Isolation doesn’t usually help. Sure there are times we need to meditate; to be alone, by ourselves, and think through things…..but if we isolate ourselves for too long…..we can find ourselves so lost we don’t even realize it…..
As with so many subjects in life I have more observations than answers….but of one thing I’m sure;
When I look around at the people who walk by…I see a lot of people who aren’t sure where they are going; many of them did what they were told and then they woke up one day and found themselves asking, what now?
For me, I’m going to have another cup of coffee…..after that…we’ll see what happens….
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