by Kenneth Justice
~At coffee recently a grandmother was sitting across from me with her two grandchildren, they looked to be around 3 & 4.
The 4ish year old did something, god-knows-what because I didn’t notice what he said or did, but whatever it was, the grandmother began yelling and berating the child rather loudly…..so loudly in fact, people on the other side of the coffee shop looked over….
I felt embarrassed for the child
I’ve seen parents do the same thing to their teenagers, who we should really refer to as ‘young adults’….and if you ask me, a parent who yells and screams at their teen in public does a great disservice to them….
But this post isn’t as much about yelling or being rude…..
Observing the grandmother made me wonder; what is this lady really like??
If, at the drop of a hat she’ll yell and be a b***h in public because her grandson didn’t do something that she approved of…..what is she like at home???
I guess because of the death of my friend the other day, I’ve been thinking a lot about who we are as people……
because death can and does come so suddenly…..I wonder how many of us are really happy with our image in the window; that is, the person who we are.
You see, every conversation we have with a friend, a family member, a business associate or an acquaintance; is a moment in time that passes……and it could be the last time we see them…..
What kind of image do we want to leave with those people?
Do we want to leave them thinking, ‘wow, what an arse she is!”
Hey, don’t get me wrong, I realize that we can’t treat every conversation with other people as though its our last…..
Or can we????
You see…..I had coffee last week with someone (who shall remain nameless) that I hadn’t seen for awhile…..and I was really struck with how this person could not go even a few minutes without looking at their phone…
Had this person left the coffee shop and been killed by a freak Cow falling from the sky and impaling their brains out (I recently saw Twister)…..my lasting memory of this person would be that they had been sucked up by 21st technology; I would remember thinking that having a conversation at coffee with them was pretty boring and annoying……
Is that how we are with our children? Do we engage them in eye-to-eye conservation about the things that matter most; or do we merely treat them as carry-on luggage, something we have to remember to not leave unattended at the airport?
Is that how we are with our friends? Do we text them non-stop when we are away from them but when we get together…..we don’t know what to talk about….and we find ourselves texting other people who aren’t in the room???
Like I said, I’m not trying to be overly dramatic and suggest we should treat every moment like its our last…….
but then again….
If this is my last moment, I’d think I’d like to have a coffee in my hand and thankfully I can smell the aroma of a 3 Region blend in the air…..