by Kenneth Justice
~ What is it about us human beings that causes us to be so darn temperamental?
I feel like too often I’m walking on a earth of eggshells;
if I don’t step correctly people immediately get pissed off, fold their arms, stop listening, and pout like a baby
Last week I had to tell a client to chill out – the client was this retired man who was twice my age and he was acting incredibly rude, so I said,
“Did your parents teach you no manners? If I was acting like you; my parents would have whooped my arse as a child!”
Of course the client didn’t care for what I said….
But, without getting lost in the details of what occurred; the client was clearly in the wrong, he was acting like a child and when I confronted him his face went into shock;
He couldn’t believe I had called him out
Of course he didn’t apologize for his rude behavior….he merely walked away and refused to talk to me anymore…..which was more than fine with me!
What has happened to us human beings? Why have we become so rude and nasty?
I am fortunate; I am self-employed and my clients are coming to me
I make enough money that I don’t mind the risk of losing a client…..I’m going to call it the way I see it.
But when I was younger; I was deathly afraid of telling someone ‘the way it was’
Especially with relatives
I have a lot of fundamentalist Christian relatives and for most of my adult life they have been very rude to me – it drives them nuts that I am no longer a fundamentalist like them so they have gotten in my face and been out-and-out nasty.
For many years……I put up with a lot of verbal abuse and I never stood up for myself
One day I decided I had enough
I made it clear to my relatives that I wasn’t going to put up with their shenanigans anymore; many of these relatives haven’t talked to me ever since!
Its really difficult knowing these relatives are so darn stubborn that they won’t apologize for their verbal abuse; and that they would rather stop being friends than give up their nasty behaviors.
In psychology we learn that a lot of women put up with verbal abuse; from their husbands, boyfriends, fathers……
Because men are often bigger and stronger…..they take advantage of their physical features and intimidate women; THIS SUCKS!
– There are definitely times in our lives where we need to bite our tongue –
But when relatives, boyfriends, spouses, clients, bosses; are verbally abusing us; isn’t it important for us to stand our ground?
or am I wrong?
Should we just keep quiet?
Don’t say anything?
Don’t rock the boat?
Since I have children I think about these things a lot
I don’t want my children to be intimidated by others
I don’t want them to be intimidated by me
I want my children to stand their ground…..and to not be afraid of speaking their mind……of course I teach them to be respectful……but I don’t want them to grow up and get involved in relationships where they are the brunt of verbal abuse……right?
Is that typical?
To be honest……I have noticed that a lot of parents don’t allow their children to disagree – Is that healthy?
More questions……..but I don’t have all the answers……
Thankfully I will have a cup of coffee and try to forget about all these people who drive me nuts!