by Kenneth Justice
~Okay, so its Monday and the weekend is over….how are you feeling this morning?
If there is any clearer difference between Western Culture and other societies it is the way we have subdivided our weekends from our work weeks.
For many people; they work all week to get to Friday
Is it healthy to live our lives as though they are entirely designed around weekend activity?
I have one particular client who gets the worst case of the Monday Morning Blues that I have ever seen in my life; he spends his weekends tending to his tree farm (a hobby of his) in Northern Michigan, but on Sunday night he travels back down to Metro-Detroit to work for the week…
By the time I see him each Monday afternoon you would think he just got back from a funeral; he hates having to be back to work
In the past month I have had no less than 3 thousand emails and comments from readers who are not happy with the current course of their life…..
–) Many want to change careers but aren’t sure how or what to do
–) Many simply want to earn more money to enable them to accomplish more with their life
–) Others enjoy their career but feel its time to move to the next level but don’t know how to make it happen
–) And others just want to quit altogether; they’ve worked for many years and are tired….but they need a source of income
Last week one particular comment led me to the following realization;
If you want something to change in your life…..your going to have to get it done all by yourself
Barring a few exceptions, for most of us…..we are on our own.
When I was younger I went through a lot of daily motions as though one day a cherry pie was going to fall from the sky and land in my hands unlocking the keys to all my dreams and desire……..
The cherry pie never came
It wasn’t until a few years ago that I came to turns with the stark truth: If I want change to come to my life…..I have to make it happen
It wasn’t easy for me to accept the truth, for some reason I stubbornly clung to the idea that if I just kept being faithful in my work, career, family, relationships……..that everything would work out in the end and I’d suddenly find myself living in my dream world.
Why did I grow up thinking that way?
I suspect there are a couple key factors
1) I was raised in a religious atmosphere that placed a lot of emphasis on hope
Hope is great…..hope is important……but hope doesn’t send cherry pies hurling through the sky packed with a million dollars
2) I watched a lot of movies and read a lot of novels
Movies and novels often portray fantasy and adventure stories that are just not realistic.
A Tom Cruise look-a-like spy is not going to walk to our cubicle and suddenly thrust us into a life of intrigue, mystery and action packed adventure.
If we want change to come to our lives…….we need to begin making changes to our lives
We must be proactive……instead of reactive
You see…..for most of my life I was reactive; I just responded to the daily elements of my life and muddled my way through
When I realized that I wanted change to occur…….I had to start being proactive; I had to start making conscious decisions toward change
It hasn’t been easy
I am still not quite where I want to be
But I feel like I am getting closer
Fortunately, I have had the nectar of the gods beside me on this adventure… which reminds me, I think I’ll have another cup of coffee.
Categories: Culture & Society