by Kenneth Justice
~Let’s get straight to the point…..people lie.
Having worked in the human service service field with addicts…..I’ve seen and heard a lot of lies.
It gets old
Lies are even harder to deal with when they come from family and friends….when your sibling, cousin, uncle or <gulp> parent lies to you….it can leave you feeling betrayed.
When your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse lies to you….it can leave you disillusioned.
When your religious leader lies to you……it can wound your faith in God
I’ve been lied to a lot in my young life
What more can I do other than to move on?
Many people who lie are not looking to be forgiven because they aren’t looking to apologize.
In fact, many liars refuse to admit that they even lied in the first place.
I don’t hold it against people when they lie. How can I? Since nearly every single human on the face of the earth lies; I’d have to stop talking to everyone if I excluded liars from my circle of friends.
Of course, many lies are a matter of convenience; we lie to to save someone from embarrassment. If we knowingly see that someone goofed up and has egg on their face, we might say, “it’s okay, don’t worry about” even though we may actually be thinking that it is a much bigger deal…..
Surprisingly enough, I am less concerned with people who lie to me; I cannot control the behaviors of others.
However; I can control whether or not I lie to myself.
So much of becoming an adult and embracing maturity is about being honest with ourselves; admitting our own weaknesses……
Too often we look in the mirror and think we are God’s gift to humanity.
Far too many of us think that the problem with the world is “other people”….
Guess what Charlie, the problem with the world is ourselves.
I used to work for a manager who micro-managed every single element of the workplace right down to the number of Bic pens each person was permitted to have at their desks……..
~It was really frustrating to work for that manager and as I look back at him now, I realize he was never able to see his imperfections. He believed it was necessary for him to micro-manage everything and everyone because he viewed himself as ‘superman’ the guy who could do everything…….he had to have his finger and nose sniffing around in everything.
People who are like that are also called ‘controlling’.
Controlling people are all over the place…..they are everywhere we look
Controlling people do not see themselves for who they really are; they lie to themselves.
I don’t want to lie to my friends…..I don’t want to lie to my readers….
And I especially don’t want to lie to myself
So here is the unadulterated truth; I’m going to have a cup of coffee right now,