by Kenneth Justice
~ When I was a kid ‘waiting’ was one of the hardest things I had to deal with in life.
As a kid it seems that ten minutes is an eternity.
“Can I have desert now mom?”
“No, you have to wait till your little brother is done eating his dinner”
Life as a kid could be tough……..
Oddly enough, as adults it seems we have created a society where having to wait is par for the course.
–> go to the bank and you wait in line
–> go to the grocery store and you wait in line
–> go to an amusement park and you really wait in lines……
Wait, wait, wait,
What are we all waiting for?
Personally, I have been waiting for my book to go through the final details of the publishing process….it has been a test of my patience!
I’ve also been waiting for my life to move on……
Last year I made some major decisions but because there are certain time frames I have to adhere to……much of my life feels in a sort-of-limbo; I have to wait for things to come to fruition.
I’ve heard it said that the British have mastered the skill of waiting. In the Hitchhikers Guide to the Universe, Arthur Dent says, “I’m British, I know how to queue”
We all know the cliches, “Good things come to those who wait”
But memorizing cliches doesn’t make it easier to wait!
I am human and more specifically; I come from Western Culture where we want what we want; now!
That is where the positive elements of spirituality (my faith in God) come in to play for me. Prayer, meditation, and having a faith in a sovereign higher power help to calm me. Because when I’m left to myself I start obsessing over how much I want what I want; now!
Another element in life that makes it difficult for me to wait is our way of life; everything in Western Culture is designed to reinforce our attitude of getting what we want now.
Take for instance how many people eat microwave popcorn versus stove-top popcorn…..we’ve become a society so obsessed with instant everything, that we can’t wait a few minutes longer to make kettle corn (which tastes so much better than microwave popcorn!)
Or consider these new fangled (I sound old don’t I) Keurig’s where you push a button and your coffee is made ‘instantly‘. It takes all of 3 – 5 minutes for my tea kettle to boil which I then pour into my French Press for awesome coffee……
Has our lives become so busy that we can’t take an extra 3 or 4 minutes to make really good popcorn or really good coffee?
What is wrong with us in Western Society? In other cultures they celebrate the joy of preparing the food, sometimes it is an all day event….
Yet here in Western Society we celebrate the joy of efficiency…..
to which I ask; WHY?
Why must everything be so damned efficient?
Why must everything taste below average because we aren’t willing to take the time to do things right?
Waiting can be difficult: I get that,
I have a difficult time waiting: I admit it,
But, I wonder if somewhere along the line we somehow got it into our heads that ‘waiting’ is somehow wrong….or detestable…..and we’ve gone out of our way as a society to eliminate as many forms of waiting as possible
And, as much as I get annoyed with long lines at the bank, grocery store, and amusement parks……I often end up having really good conversations with the people standing next to me……
Sometimes the wait is worth it…..
Like a good cup of coffee; waiting for my French Press is totally worth it, which reminds me, I think I’ll have another cup,
Categories: Culture & Society