by Kenneth Justice
~Yesterday as I was sitting at Starbucks (writing my last blog post actually) and a customer who was in the middle of paying said to the cashier “ya know, you would be a lot cuter if you lost some weight”
For a minute I had to make sure I had heard what I just heard; did a customer just tell the cashier that she was fat?
Did I wake up in bizarro world where all of a sudden it is okay to not only be a rude and obnoxious person…..but its also okay to go around telling people that they are fat?
Being within earshot of the conversation I leaned over and having made eye contact with the Rude Ronny; gave him an earful of expletives calling him a son of a motherless goat.
I realize that people are becoming more and more rude. I’ve written about it repeatedly. I grew up in a conservative Christian environment so rudeness and personal attacks are something I have seen more of than I care to admit.
But come on now; isn’t telling a stranger to their face “you are fat” going a little too far??
What happened to a little bit of common decency?
I realize that our country has an obesity problem. I realize that our eating habits in the Western World are pretty darn poor. But does that then mean you and I should walk around being obnoxiously rude?
Rudeness and meanness are getting out-of-control.
I suspect it is connected to the dissatisfaction people are experiencing in their lives.
When I attended hardcore conservative Christian churches I noticed that my fellow parishioners spent a lot of time bashing non-Christians. Evangelicals love to spend Sunday afternoons talking about what is wrong with everyone else.
I suspect this proclivity toward focusing on the ‘wrong behaviors’ of others is connected to one’s own insecurities.
For instance, there are just as many problems in the personal lives of conservative Christians as non-Christians; conservative Christians get divorced, have secret addictions, dislike their vocation, and more.
Thus, when someone feel’s dissatisfied with their life; a way of not dealing with the dissatisfaction is to focus their anger and hostility toward others.
I mention conservative Christianity in this post because it was especially troubling for me growing up as my fellow Christians slapped the ‘god label’ on their rudeness; Christians love to use the bible and theology to hide behind as they dish out their nastiness.
Thus, the conservative Christian hides behind bible verses taken out of context as they say, “Oh…I’m not being rude or judgmental, I’m just quoting God’s holy word”
It was especially difficult for me when Christian relatives, friends and church leaders tried to compel me to obey their whim’s and fancies by telling me I was ‘violating god’s will”…….as though they somehow had secret knowledge of Gods will for my life.
I recall one particular conversation with a christian relative who was trying to argue with me that god speaks to him; when I told him that people who hear voices in their head usually need psychological intervention, I’m sure you can guess that it didn’t go over very well.
Whether you are a Christian or Buddhist, an athiest or agnostic, I think you might agree with me that Western Society needs to begin practicing a little bit of grace;
The grace I am referring to is a simple way of letting things go; whether you think you are right or wrong, bite your tongue.
Show grace to others and don’t tell them what you think is wrong with them.
We don’t all have to be perfect.
In fact, it is in our perfections that we find a certain level of beauty.
Yesterday a friend of mine told me he broke off talking with a girl because she didn’t share his same political views. I tried to gently ask him, “is it necessary that every girl you date share the exact same political views?”
Why must everyone believe exactly the same way?
The only thing that I feel we should all agree on is that a cup of good coffee is a great way to start the morning, which reminds me, I think I’ll have another cup,
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