by Kenneth Justice
~So often in life we lose our way.
When I worked as a counselor at the county jail I often found myself meeting with people who had lost their way in life.
Sometimes we start out with great intentions. We are full of energy; we leave high school and college ready to take on the world and make the most of our lives; but then our life takes a sudden twist and we find ourselves in places we had never expected.
This isn’t to say that the we always end up in bad places; sometimes those twists in the road lead us to wonderful places we never could of foreseen.
I’ve known many people who found love in places they weren’t even looking.
An older friend of mine told me that it wasn’t until his wife cheated on him that he realized how much he truly loved her. They had been married for many years and the relationship between he and his wife was definitely lacking in many areas.l When the affair occurred it was like a major jolt to his system and theirs is one of the marriage success stories; they recovered from their past relationship problems and recently celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary. They are very much in love with each other.
–) As much as we plan
–) As much as we chart our course
–) As much as we want to set in stone our life goals
Sometimes we have to be ready for unexpected twists and turns
For the past week my children had been planning on going to the Drive-In Movie theater.
We had chosen a day and time and when the night of when we were supposed to go came; there was a huge thunderstorm! And then on top of the thunderstorm the car we were going to use had to go into the auto-repair shop!
–> Learning to roll with the thunderstorms of life is an important lesson; sometimes our best laid plans get derailed.
Although I enjoy doing things last minute, like getting a phone call from a friend, “Hey what are you doing? Do you wanna grab a coffee with me?”
I also enjoy planning things
I enjoy making goals
I enjoy sticking to plans
I enjoy the predictability of doing what we said we were going to do
But sometimes a thunderstorm comes.
And when those thunderstorms come we need to be flexible or to borrow the colloquialism “when life gives you lemons you make lemon-aid”
I’ve met with a lot of different people lately who are having a difficult time adjusting to the twists and turns of life.
Their lives didn’t turn out to be the way they expected them to turn out and when that happens it can lead to disappointment, sadness, and even depression.
When you think about it; the people in Egypt right now are a good example of people who are having to deal with some major twists and turns; they kicked out one leader a year ago and elected a new leader……..but last week they kicked out the new guy!
The people in Egypt want to see their lives improve; better jobs, easier access to food, etc.
Most of the time that is what we want out of life; a better job and good food
But one thing I’ve noticed about Americans is that we tend to want…..more than we really need.
When you get down to brass tacks; a lot of us are spending more than we should. A lot of us are buying things we don’t need.
Perhaps the twist our lives took unexpectedly; is that we woke up one day to find that we wasted a lot of money without even realizing it!
Learning to be thankful and satisfied with what we have is something that many of us have forgotten how to do.
Our necks hurt because we’ve been looking over our neighbor’s fence to much coveting the brand new Porsche sitting in their driveway.
I guess like many things; it is about balance. Finding that happy middle ground where we are happy with what we have and want to get a little bit more…..but not to the point of selling our soul to the company store.
Or perhaps its about going backwards to where we started out.
Remember how happy we were when we were younger? When all it took to make us happy was to spend the weekend hanging out with our friends?
Why must we now have more expensive houses, more expensive cars, boats, clothes, etc. in order to find happiness?
Why can’t we just spend the weekend drinking coffee with our friends the way we used to?
More questions……fewer answers.
I think I will have another cup of coffee myself,
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