by Kenneth Justice
~ “my god dude, you really love your coffee”
“What is it with you and your coffee”
“I love the way you end all your posts with something about coffee”
“Kenneth the coffee thing at the end of your posts is overkill”
~ Okay, so that is a small representational sampling of the private emails I get about the way I end each of my posts.
As you can see the comments pretty much run the gambit of like/dislike/hate/and love. Some people are a little bit more dramatic in their disgust of my coffee endings and they use a few choice words that I think I will leave to your imagination…… suffice to say they end in ‘uck’ and ‘hit’
Fortunately, I enjoy the nasty comments and emails as much as I enjoy the nice once. The fact that people get so worked up over something as silly as me mentioning something about coffee tells me that I must be connecting with my readers and I’d rather connect than have people not read at all!
To be honest, this post isn’t even really about coffee; its about consistency.
You see, in the psychology field consistency is important;
—) It’s important for parents to be consistent in the way they raise their children
—) It’s important for employers to be consistent in the way they treat their employees
—) It’s important for each of us to be consistent in the way we conduct our lives.
There is definitely a place in our lives for doing things ‘spur-of-the-moment’ or having a random adventure.
But for the most part; those of us who are the most consistent in our daily lives are the people whose emotional and psychological health is the most…..’consistent’.
Of course we don’t want to get so stuck in our daily routine that we become fearful of meeting new people, trying new foods, or experiencing new adventures. But overall; consistency is an important factor in our emotional health.
There is something about us humans that really enjoy consistency.
—) We enjoy being greeted by a familiar face at local bagel or coffee shop
—) We enjoy seeing our relatives on the holidays
—) We enjoy getting that out-of-date but so precious birthday card from our grandmother every year
Traditions, consistency….call it what you want; we humans enjoy doing the same things over and over for years.
Some people love consistency so much that they take it pretty far. A previous co-worker of mine had a son who would only eat oatmeal for breakfast. From age 5 to age 15 the boy never had anything else except for oatmeal.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with having oatmeal for breakfast; it points out how much we love consistency.
Staying consistent in certain elements of life also helps us to overcome hurdles; when I worked at a rehab clinic one of the central themes I repeatedly encouraged my clients in was consistency. Staying consistent in positive daily habits helps many people to overcome addictions.
If you have children then you know how vital it is to be consistent in your parenting; children who know that their parents will always love them and will always be there no matter what happens feel more secure in who they are as individuals.
I used to be friends with a young woman who had major memory problems. Her parents moved around so much during her childhood (they lived in more than 30 houses during a 10 year span) that the lack of consistency in her family life had led to her having difficulty in the way her brain stored memories. A lack of consistency had a very negative effect on her life.
Consistency also helps us in setting up goals. For those of us who want to change the course of our lives; in order to move toward the goals we have set for ourselves we need to be consistent in our behavior in order to obtain them.
So why do I end every post with a quote about coffee? Well….because I really enjoy coffee?
Which reminds me…….I think its time for another cup.
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