By Kenneth Justice
~ Ever feel like you put all your heart and energy into something….but it just wasn’t good enough?
A coffee house acquaintance of mine has been recently experiencing the last stages of a relationship,
“Kenneth, I’ve put aside the last five years of life for my significant other and it seems like it’s all for naught!” they said to me.
I remember the first time I experienced the bad side of ‘big business’, I was twenty-three years old and one of my favorite business associate’s was let go from his company after 50 years of service. He had been with the owner from the very beginning; he was the company’s first employee and had stuck with them through ‘thick and thin’. Now at the age of 70 years old the company no longer cared to have him around and they gave him 24 hours to clear his desk and go home.
Sometimes you work and you work, you put everything you’ve got into something….but it’s just not good enough.
In the case of a relationship the emotions run deep.
But even in the case of the business world, our feelings can become closely intertwined to the task at hand.
Friendships are another arena where the time you put in is often all for naught.
I’ve had a number of friends with whom I put tremendous amounts of time into the relationships and then they suddenly….disappeared.
It sucks to build a close friendship or relationship with someone, only to have them disappear in to obscurity. It often compels me to think; what was the point?
It seems like there are a lot of times in life where I find myself asking, ‘what is the point’?
I’ve almost finished reading the autobiography of Gandhi and holy cow…..now there is a guy who could of spent multiple lifetimes asking “what’s the point?”
There were many periods of his life when every which way Gandhi turned…..he had to deal with difficulties. In almost the same wording, Gandhi often asked himself “What’s the point?”
Even though life is often difficult for me there is one small solace I have found; in the few periods of my life where things were ‘easy’…….life was kind of boring. This is not to say that I want a life of hardship! But if I’m going to be honest with myself, I’m beginning to realize more and more that it is through the tough times, the times when I find myself saying, ‘what’s the point’, that I often experience the greatest levels of joy.
It’s kind of like climbing a mountain; managing the terrain and the climb can be really hard, but once you’re each the precipice the payoff is well worth it.
The steeper and more difficult the mountain; the greater the view is at the top.
Perhaps I’m not saying anything that you haven’t heard before.
Perhaps this is all elementary logic for my intelligent readers…….or perhaps it is something that we need to remind ourselves of regularly; that there is a point.
Even if we don’t immediately understand it…..there is a point to it all.
Unfortunately, knowing this doesn’t make life any easier to live.
–) When your boyfriend comes home one night and says, “That’s it, I’m done……I’m leaving” it can take a long time to heal.
–) When you get 5 years into your career and you feel like you’re pretty much in the same place as when you started…….life can feel very heavy.
–) When your friend of nearly 20 years suddenly fades away and is uninterested in staying in touch…..it can hurt
–) When your parents refuse to support your decisions and would rather nag you than listen…..it can be tough.
–) When you wake up one day and feel like your life is boring as hell…….it can be a scary moment
But whatever struggle we might be going through……we can take refuge in the thought that the pursuit of truth is well worth it; there is a purpose to what we are going through.
The best is yet to come.
The coffee only gets better.