What’s the point…….REALLY???

What's the point

By Kenneth Justice

~ Ever feel like you put all your heart and energy into something….but it just wasn’t good enough?

A coffee house acquaintance of mine has been recently experiencing the last stages of a relationship,

“Kenneth, I’ve put aside the last five years of life for my significant other and it seems like it’s all for naught!” they said to me.

I remember the first time I experienced the bad side of ‘big business’, I was twenty-three years old and one of my favorite business associate’s was let go from his company after 50 years of service. He had been with the owner from the very beginning; he was the company’s first employee and had stuck with them through ‘thick and thin’. Now at the age of 70 years old the company no longer cared to have him around and they gave him 24 hours to clear his desk and go home.

Sometimes you work and you work, you put everything you’ve got into something….but it’s just not good enough.

In the case of a relationship the emotions run deep.

But even in the case of the business world, our feelings can become closely intertwined to the task at hand.

Friendships are another arena where the time you put in is often all for naught.

I’ve had a number of friends with whom I put tremendous amounts of time into the relationships and then they suddenly….disappeared.

It sucks to build a close friendship or relationship with someone, only to have them disappear in to obscurity. It often compels me to think; what was the point?

It seems like there are a lot of times in life where I find myself asking, ‘what is the point’?

I’ve almost finished reading the autobiography of Gandhi and holy cow…..now there is a guy who could of spent multiple lifetimes asking “what’s the point?”

There were many periods of his life when every which way Gandhi turned…..he had to deal with difficulties. In almost the same wording, Gandhi often asked himself “What’s the point?”

Even though life is often difficult for me there is one small solace I have found; in the few periods of my life where things were ‘easy’…….life was kind of boring. This is not to say that I want a life of hardship! But if I’m going to be honest with myself, I’m beginning to realize more and more that it is through the tough times, the times when I find myself saying, ‘what’s the point’, that I often experience the greatest levels of joy.

It’s kind of like climbing a mountain; managing the terrain and the climb can be really hard, but once you’re each the precipice the payoff is well worth it.

The steeper and more difficult the mountain; the greater the view is at the top.

Perhaps I’m not saying anything that you haven’t heard before.

Perhaps this is all elementary logic for my intelligent readers…….or perhaps it is something that we need to remind ourselves of regularly; that there is a point.

Even if we don’t immediately understand it…..there is a point to it all.

Unfortunately, knowing this doesn’t make life any easier to live.

–) When your boyfriend comes home one night and says, “That’s it, I’m done……I’m leaving” it can take a long time to heal.

–) When you get 5 years into your career and you feel like you’re pretty much in the same place as when you started…….life can feel very heavy.

–) When your friend of nearly 20 years suddenly fades away and is uninterested in staying in touch…..it can hurt

–) When your parents refuse to support your decisions and would rather nag you than listen…..it can be tough.

–) When you wake up one day and feel like your life is boring as hell…….it can be a scary moment

But whatever struggle we might be going through……we can take refuge in the thought that the pursuit of truth is well worth it; there is a purpose to what we are going through.

The best is yet to come.

The coffee only gets better.

Kenneth



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12 replies

  1. Ok, did you say “Holy cow” in reference to Ghandi on purpose? I snorted when I read it.
    As for the topic at hand, yes, yes, yes. I work in public education, and no matter how hard I work or how much my students improve, people have these preconceived notions and automatically condescend. I even had a PA start complaining to me about his past teachers and my current coworkers while in the middle of an appointment for a raging inner ear infection. Sometimes I really do wonder what’s the point because it doesn’t seem like anyone will see me as a professional – just someone who has summers off.

  2. Thank you for these amazing words! It’s true that we often don’t see the point of something: losing our job, losing a friend, ending a relationship. But there’s always a point. And the journey to that point can be very difficult and exhausting, but it seems like the ‘reward’ is even more special and more, well, rewarding 😉

  3. always a good read… I find myself asking what’s the point every day and every day I find some reason to keep putting effort into things that don’t reap much in the way of rewards even if it is just in the knowledge I tried to do the right thing…

  4. “Many of us exclaimed, “What an order! I can’t go through with it”. Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints.”
    “The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines”. aa

    • Biochicklet,

      “The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines”…..

      well said….
      I think where I have become more mature in recent years is that I’m learning to let people grow as they desire…and not as ‘i desire’.

      In past years I was programmed to try and ‘guide’ the spiritual growth of those around me….and now I believe I can be a better friend by ‘just being there’ for those I love 🙂

  5. ..MOST refreshing read ever…
    *clicks coffe cup*

  6. I think that the word I was looking for is choice. I mean that life should be made out of choices. (It is less and less so. We are mostly programmed.) But when it comes to human relations, we should always remember that the person in front of us has similar rights to choices. Friends will always be friends, even as memories. If I or they believe that the time spent together can be used elsewhere more efficiently and bringing more joy, then it is something to respect. And yes it is hurtful to a degree, but if your life is full other things won’t let you cry over spilt milk.

  7. I had a few musings while reading your post, please forgive me if this is out of place:
    I find that the ‘what is the point’ logic is a bit too small-minded. We must realize that in the end we die, become stardust, and there is no more. What is the point of life, then? If we know we will be gone and that it was all for nothing? Experience. Just experiencing emotions of love, happiness, joy, comfort, pain, sadness, etc. as well as learning and exploring the world and all it has to offer are the points. I agree, life can have many struggles – but there is a purpose. In my opinion that purpose is as simple as life itself. In other words, we are alive to be alive – and we might as well experience all that we can while we exist. I do not like to live ‘in the future’ believing that right now is just a place that I’m ‘stuck in’, you mentioned “the best is yet to come”. I would rather say, “This is my life. I own it. I will make the most of it!” You will never get RIGHT NOW back. Why not enjoy it while you have it? Great article, thank you for sharing!

  8. lovely read! it can feel like the hamster in the wheel, not going anywhere at times… then bam! everything falls into place all at once and the purpose can be seen. everyone can use a reminder every now and then that even the hardships are worth it because it’s those things that shape us and prepare us for what’s to come. we can’t really appreciate the good in our life if we didn’t have hardships to teach us to appreciate and be grateful. at least that’s what i think. 🙂 it just sucks in the moment haha.

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