by Kenneth Justice
~Yesterday at coffee one of my café acquaintance’s started to tear up as she sat down at our table…”Are you okay?” I asked
“Yea, I’m fine….I’m crying because I’m so happy!” she said
It turns out that her older sister, who had been living the last few years as the proverbial ‘wild child’, had shown up at her apartment a couple nights before looking for a place to sleep, “My parents completely cut off my sister from their lives because she didn’t live the way they wanted her to live…..they were really hard on her when she told them she didn’t want to go to college anymore”
Apparently, my coffee acquaintance hadn’t heard a word from her sister in more than three years….the last time they talked though, “I told her that I loved her no matter what and if she ever needed a place to stay she could come to me” she said. The parents still refuse to see the older sister; “My sister started drinking really hard and experimenting with drugs, she got a couple abortions….but I think she finally burned out and is ready to start over….so I’m going to do what I can to help her out. ”
I’m not sure what to think; the parents cut the older sister off….but the younger sister kept her door open….its strange to see the twists and turns that occur in life. What I really admire about this coffee acquaintance of mine is that she is being there for her sister. Sometimes that is what life is about; staying faithful to our loved ones in the face of adversity.
Actually, much of life is about being there;
—) Employees have to demonstrate faithfulness to their employer by being to work on time every day
—) Authors and writers have to demonstrate faithfulness to their readers by providing fresh material (whether it is a yearly, monthly, weekly, or simply a daily article)…being there for your readers creates a connection between you and your readership. Michael Crichton was one of my favorite science fiction novelists and I began to really look forward to every new book he published each year; his death really hit me hard.
—) Parents should be there for their children no matter what….right?
I’ve had a number of friends who have dropped off the radar and disappeared out of my life for one reason or another. Perhaps I am wrong; but if those friends suddenly reappeared I would still be there for them. Sure, maybe I will be a bit hesitant to allow myself to become quite as close to them as I used to be….but isn’t a true friend someone who is there for their friends no matter what…even if they disappeared for a few years?
There are a lot of qualities in people I admire…and faithfulness is at the top of the list. Its easy to be nice to others for a short period of time. Its easy to be friends for a couple weeks or a couple years. Its easy to love your children when they are ‘obeying’ you……but being faithful and committed to your friends and loved ones in the face of adversity; now that is a quality that really impresses me.
Being there for others demonstrates something about our character. Biting our tongue and not condemning others for their decisions in life…and simply being there for them says a lot about our inner person; it demonstrates an attitude that fewer people these days seem to have.
My coffee house acquaintance went on to say, “When my mom found out today that my sister is living with me she was pissed off, she told me I shouldn’t let a drug addict move in to my apartment….Kenneth, I’ll be honest with you, my sister is very different from me; she’s covered in piercings and tattoos, actually the tattoos are one of the things my parents hate about her….but I’m learning to bite my tongue and keep my opinions on those things quiet”
After the conversation was over I felt like tearing up myself. The maturation that this young 20-something woman is demonstrating by her love toward her older sister is really admirable.
Its an odd world we live in; so much of it is filled with conflict. Conservatives hate Liberals and Liberals hate Conservatives. Religious people bash atheists and atheists bash religion. War ravages so many parts of the Middle East, Africa and other parts of the world…….yet in the midst of all this chaos a young 20-something year old single woman loves her sister so much that it doesn’t matter that her parents are giving her hell for it; she is still letting her sister live with her to help her out.
There are many mornings when I look at the clock and dream about sleeping in and shrugging off the responsibilities of my life…..of disappearing to another world and losing myself……but ultimately I know that it’s important that I not give up; I too need to be there for those whom I love and care for……
And that is what’s been on my mind this morning as I’ve been sipping my coffee,