The solitary life…REALLY???

what are you doing

by Kenneth Justice

~ Last week at coffee I spent a couple hours talking to one of the quasi-homeless guys that hangs out at the café. I say ‘quasi’ because he receives a small monthly stipend from the government but he lives at a homeless shelter and uses his gov’t check to buy food, coffee, cigarettes and alcohol……

One of the most difficult things I struggle with in life is my tendency to want to tell other people how they should live. Too often I want to hoist my personal standards of living and force it upon others….. and as we were talking I realized the questions I was asking were clearly ‘critical’ conveying my negative opinion of this homeless guys choices in life,

—) “I don’t get it dude, why don’t you go get a simple job so you don’t have to live in the homeless shelter?” I asked

—) “Why do you like living at a homeless shelter? I visited the shelter you stay at and it sucks” I asked

—) “Don’t you want to do something more with your life?” I asked

Fortunately, this particular guy and I have been ‘acquaintances’ for at least five years now so he wasn’t offended by my questions….even though the spirit with which I was asking them wasn’t all that nice.

Look Kenneth, I’m happy with the way my life is….what more do you want from me?” he said

Once I finally realized I was being rude, I apologized to him and we ended up having a nice conversation the rest of the evening. Nonetheless, the conversation reminded me how difficult it is for me at times to understand the choices that other people make. Maybe its a product of my ultra-conservative religious background in which we were taught to condemn and look down at anyone who didn’t share our beliefs……or maybe its an American thing where I assume everyone wants to join the ‘rat race’ in order to make a ton of money.

The simple fact of the matter is that this particular homeless guy is happy with his setup;

—) he gets a free cot to sleep on at night (although he’s stuck in a room with fifty other very smelly guys who will steel his backpack if he doesn’t keep it under his pillow)

—) he gets a free meal once a day at the soup kitchen run by a local church

—) he gets the small government check to buy cigarettes, alcohol, and the junk food I always see him carrying around

And most of all the guy has no responsibilities in life. On warm nights in the summer I see him sleeping on park benches after a long night of drinking when he didn’t feel like walking back to the shelter. He doesn’t have to worry about paying bills, or taking care of children, or meeting the emotional needs of a significant other, and he doesn’t have to worry about buying Christmas presents for anyone…….he doesn’t have a care in the world.

But I don’t envy him.

You see, so often in the Western World we find ourselves complaining about paying the bills, the cost of raising children, the annoyance of going to work….and all the other elements of adult responsibilities….but maybe those things aren’t so bad. Because as much as I’m learning to love other people (like this homeless guy) and let them live life however they want to live it; and not judge them for it…….I’m also realizing that in many ways I’m grateful for all the responsibilities in life that I have.

—) I’m glad I have to get up early in the morning to stay abreast of all my responsibilities

—) I’m glad that I have to work hard to pay my bills

—) I’m glad that I have a reason to keep staying faithful in my responsibilities

It’s not that I aspire to be the CEO of a multi-billion dollar corporation or anything like that……and even though work can be very tedious at times…..I’m glad I have a job; I would rather be working than be drunk and asleep on a park bench. Waking up with a hangover isn’t my kind of ‘fun’…..and having to guard my few possessions in life under my pillow from other homeless people doesn’t sound like very much fun to me either. And while I’m learning to be okay with the choices that other people make and how they want to live their life… doesn’t mean I have to be ashamed for the way I’m living my life.

As I was going through my monthly budget this morning I began to think about the homeless guy’s ‘no responsibility’ life; and while it might be nice in some way to never have to pay a bill ever again…….perhaps that’s not what I really want out of life. Maybe its through the responsibility of working a job, and paying bills, and putting food on the table that we learn to grow and mature in a way that could never happen if we were simply living on the street with not a care in the world.

Yesterday it was the homeless guy’s birthday and me and a couple other patrons bought him a gift card to the coffee shop we all hang out at…..he appreciated it quite a bit and after getting his coffee he sat down with the four of us….we had a really nice conversation.

Time for another coffee,





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  1. No one knows what makes other people happy. Assumptions are dangerous things. No one knows what other should do and everything we see or think is based on our own perspective. It’s best to accept people as they are and let them live their own lives free from out opinions and assumptions…opinions and assumptions that belong to us and have nothing at all to do with anyone else.

    • “No one knows what makes other people happy”


    • Many likes!!! As a society, we often want to impose our ways on others, but we are different people. I remember watching a documentary on Happy People and this man in the village with barely a roof over his head and little food to eat with his family was more happy than the average American.

    • I saw the same documentary…it was REALLY good…I would highly recommend it to anyone who hasn’t seen it…totally worth the time to watch

    • Is it asking too much for people to be responsible and lead productive lives? Low-wage seamstresses working in sweat shops probably sewed together the jeans that this homeless man wears. Farmers raised the livestock and crops used in the goods that this man consumes: chicken in the soup, cotton in the undergarments, grain in the liquor, tobacco in the cigarettes, to name a few. These goods come at a cost. Unless a man is unfit for work or mentally ill, why shouldn’t he work and contribute to the common good? To whom does the rule apply that we should accept people as they are? Only the homeless? Or all of us? If we accept the view that all people should receive immunity from reproach, then we allow them to do as they please, which includes the entire gamut from virtuous to wicked deeds. Who cares what makes a person happy? Who needs to be “happy” at all? We only ask that they join the work force. If they can work, but don’t want to, they should be taken off the street by force and sent to government labor camps where they could be assigned to labor-intensive public projects, such as digging canals for channeling floodwater or building dikes to protect New Orleans from the sea. There’s lots that needs to be done, so let’s roll up our sleeves and get working!

  2. So very true. Now, if only more people would realize that it isn’t up to us to expect, or force, other people to live according to the standards we’ve set for ourselves. Unfortunately, it is a real problem, particularly in the area of morals and the attempt to legislate our personal Christian morals on those who want nothing to do with them.

    • “Unfortunately, it is a real problem, particularly in the area of morals and the attempt to legislate our personal Christian morals on those who want nothing to do with them.”

      right on. This is such a touchy issue with so many because there is a propensity in American society in which we want to ‘force’ others to live a ‘certain way of life’…..

  3. Felt almost forced to comment on this today ;D It is a pleasure to, happy you came my way Kenneth

  4. I love this post! I struggle myself with this and understanding how people can be happy in situations that I can’t seem to understand. I know that we can’t assume anything or tell anyone how to live their lives, but for me, I have worked three jobs at once just so that I would know that I would be taken care of. I honestly didn’t need to work that hard, but for me, I want to know that I can take care of myself. Some people call that pride or ego, but I just say it’s standing on my own two feet. Although I can’t tell someone else that this is right for them, I know that living like that would be stressful for me, I need to know that I have a job and even though I complain, I do it because that keeps me doing things that I want to be able to do, like eat out, go to the movies, etc. We all live our own life and I fight to make sure that I find my own kind of happy, so I wouldn’t deny anyone else the pursuit of theirs. Again another great post, thanks!

    • ” I need to know that I have a job and even though I complain, I do it because that keeps me doing things that I want to be able to do, like eat out, go to the movies, etc. ”

      I’m in a similar boat as you; sure I could work less and not go out to the movies or do the things I enjoy doing…..but I enjoy the tradeoff that working more and being able to do more offers….but even I have my limits because I don’t want to sell my soul to work so much that I find that I have no life whatsoever……a balancing act for sure.

    • Exactly that is what it is really all about, balancing. I find that when I am off for too long, I get bored anyway. I need work or something else to occupy my brain…but again we are all different. Hope you enjoy your coffee, I am having a cup myself 🙂

  5. I just finished reading a novel written by a man that spent all of his 20’s and 30’s living hand to mouth. He always found some kind of work to keep a room, but it was all gone in a moment. Flat broke and hungry. The man has a callousness towards all the things I value. Women were used and thrown aside. I believe what we do not envy is the failure of some people to build a life. To nurture a child to open their hearts to a lover. I don’t think I would be capable of the existence he has. How fortunate that he found your friendship.

    • “To nurture a child to open their hearts to a lover”

      I like that sentence…….and yea, I have a difficult time relating to someone who doesn’t even want the responsibility of having a relationship with another person….

    • I could say about this “want the responsibility of having a relationship”, that sometimes it is not about wanting, but happening without wanting-and being good at it nonetheless. Not about wanting but needing. Not about wanting but daring to refrain from your basic instincts. In Greece many decades ago it used to be “either get married or become a monk/priest”. No wonder there were so many Saints in those days. Both tough choices for different reasons. But there are other choices as well in our modern society. So, I guess the problem if you want to find one, is the egotistical nature of the human being. Then again, egoism is the center of the Capitalist theory, if there is one…

  6. “it doesn’t mean I have to be ashamed for the way I’m living my life”. Thank you. So many do, and so many ask others to be ashamed! In my case it has nothing to do with the church. Just being brought up in “society”. And now I must be at lunch. 🙂

  7. I “like” because you have opened up this subject for discussion. I feel that what he misses is so great, that everything you list as “pluses” don’t make up for it. But perhaps, he has grown so much, becoming so wise that he sees how futile is this society and the way it is founded and prefers to just get by. Dare I say that we are “programmed” from early on to follow patterns we call “marriage & having a family”, “work”, “fun” etc. The Buddhists say give me a child for the first 6 years of his/hers life, and I will turn him/her for life. But if we only saw how different people in different countries perceive these ways, these patterns, these “programs” we can easily understand that there are so many different, none of them wrong. The problem is that the prevailing program in each society tends to consider the “minorities” as wrong. (I could use other words, but I would give the conversation a turn I don’t want to) But, believe me, some of the issues we carry, sometimes are not even connected with each other. They run their courses parallel in us.

    • Its definitely a deep subject…..I’m reminded of the early European settlers to North America; when they lived a more communal life the community suffered. When they allowed people to have to work for their own food and shelter; the community prospered.

      For me, I don’t believe there is a perfect economic system that exists or has ever existed…..every communal system (even in third world countries) always devolves into some kind of dictatorship where a central figure pretty much dominates all the people….perhaps that is a product of human nature; the strong rise to the top (evolution?)….

      so I prefer a mixture of social justice alongside capitalism (capitalism for me is basically personal responsibility)

      I definitely agree with you though that we shouldn’t look down on the minorities or look down on people who share economic or philosophic views that differ from ourselves. Personally, I would like to see a greater freedom which would allow people to try out different ways of life. For instance, here in America we have a lot of land available; perhaps the people who don’t like the hardcore capitalism of our conservative states and don’t like the more socialism of our liberal states could move to Montana and start their own economic system and see if it works

    • Funnily, I was writing a reply on a comment above mine, and it was like answering to this one. Good thing I am not so far off from what you mean in your post. My problem is that some things that do work in small communities (like villages and monasteries or Kibutz) and in proto-christianic church, where the church was the epicenter of the community. Capitalism can not be combined with social justice. Capitalism to me, has nothing to do with personal responsibility. And after all if the responsibility is looking inwards and socialism (they are only names of systems, nothing more) is looking for our fellow human then I do prefer the second, both as a better system and more christian one as well. If everybody tried to help his fellow human FIRST and foremost, all the problems would have been solved. Of course I should be the last to speak and I know how difficult it is (I have wrote about it in one of your previous posts) because Capitalist and Communism are dictatorships because they dictate our life with rules, while christianity is a way of life. No rules but one: Love and do what you want (St.Paul) And our modern society doesn’t want this. It wants numbers, consumers, conflict, power, masters, servants and slaves.

    • Sorry to correct the quote above, but it was the Jesuits who say “Give me the child until he is seven and i will give you the man” The phrase is hackneyed and quite sinister, if you apply the idea to our society you can quickly see where we come from. A great post nevertheless. I had a similar conversation with an acquaintance who lived under a hedge outside a large supermarket. When it rained he lived in the bus-stop shelter. “Why do you do it?” “Because it’s what I like to do”. It got me thinking the same way you are in this post. Thanks for the insights, and the great comments people have placed. Tony

    • Vassilis,

      Its been a long time since I read Wealth of Nations by Adam Smith…but I’m not sure that your correct when you say social justice can’t be connected to capitalism…or that personal responsibility has to be left out of the equation also….

      one thing you’ve got to realize is that I don’t think Adam Smith ever envisioned governments combining capitalism with unlimited paper money. Back when Smith was living the U.S. and a number of other countries were still operating on the Gold Standard so that there was an ‘organic’ check against the government being able to destroy the value of currency…..and the gold standard was also a positive way to encourage bartering (like someone trading eggs for dental work) which is a pretty cool way to trade economic services….

      the second the U.S. left the gold standard the entire surface of economics changed; by leaving the gold standard and deflating the value of the currency; the new economy allowed big corporations to amass unlimited amounts of paper money that created a massive gap between the company and the employee…..

      also: Smith was living during the era of mercantilism; have you studied mercantilism? Because that’s an important thing to note as well because early capitalism was really nothing more than a merging of mercantilism and certain elements of Smith’s philosophy and back then; the government put caps on how much companies could charge for various services and goods……….the capitalism you’re referring to sounds more like the robber barrens of the 19th century which were totally evil; and they were very disconnected from the mercantilism/capitalism of the 18th century.

  8. This is what makes the world beautiful, colorful, creative, artistic…not one single human being is the same. Maybe just maybe your homeless friend has been so hurt by humanity that this choice is the only choice…who really knows?!! Loving humans does NOT in any way, shape or form equal to liking them or understanding them…K, keep on writing because your words give others moments to think…I say this, do you want to be fully accepted? The only way to become accepted is to accept…it seems that you ended your evening by accepting this homeless man.

    • Well said, I like how u point out that loving others doesn’t mean we have to “understand” them…..that is how so much of life is; in fact there are sme people I will probably never understand, but that’s okay 🙂

  9. While you were going through your “monthly budget”, did you take into account how much of your tax dollar was being spent on someone who CHOOSES to take your money..?? Did you take into account that perhaps there’s someone else out there who needs that little bit of chump-change more than this guy… through no fault of their own.. and perhaps they didn’t “choose” to live in that circumstance.? I can surely empathize with this man’s living conditions.. but.. as you stated.. it was his choice. My choice would be to give his small government check to someone who’s truly trying not want to live like that.
    PS… Thanks.. I feel better now..!!

    • Rivera,

      Lol good points….but I’m not even gonna go there cause that is a whole ‘nother can o’ worms….maybe I’ll write something about that on another day 🙂

    • I really want to say, “Poor guy”.. but I think he’s better off than a lot of others.
      I agree with everyone’s right to choose their own lifestyle.. and also your point regarding our wanting everyone to do live the way we think they should.. it’s just that I don’t have the right to choose whom I help with my tax dollar.. and how “right” is it for him to have the right to have me ( and others) support him.
      PS.. Thank.. again.. feel MUCH better now.. have a great day.. (if you so choose)

    • We might all feel differently about paying taxes if we had more say regarding how the money is used and allocated 🙂

    • I think a decision between “worthy” poor and “unworthy” poor is fraught with problems.
      It’s a dilemma that even ancient Greek and Roman philosophers faced.

      Kenneth is right that it’s a can of worms; I have been both “unworthy” and “worthy” in my years in poverty. But where is the distinction, truly? Would other taxpayers deem me “worthy” as my friends and family do? Would they shame me old-school on the rare occasions I am able to have a steak, or shame me new-school, when I have donuts, cookies, chips, and the like? Would they shame me because my kids are skinny, but my wife and I are horribly fat? Would they say some sort of “This obesity is YOUR fault, buck up” or would they take the time to consider that maybe my health problems brought it on?

    • jaklumen,

      and for all the reasons you stated….is why I’m VERY careful when I talk about this particular subject; I don’t see it clear-cut one way or the other because there are so many different sides to the coin…and there is a lot of subjectivity with regard to the way people see the issue….

      ultimately; I know that I’m not smart enough to decide who is ‘worthy’ and who is ‘unworthy’ so I do my best to keep my mouth shut regarding the whole subject.

      Great comments dude

  10. It is not about not having responsibilities. It is about being happy with what you have. even if it s nothing in the yes of someone else.
    It is not about no care i the world attitude, we still need to eat every day. sleep when it is cold. But I am happy when i do not have anything to be envy about.
    living a life with out jealousy, regret.

  11. my question would be if the homeless man is truly happy with his situation or is it just acceptance… I would also wonder how much mental and emotional health as well as addictions play into his decision to live such a way…

    • TJ, you’re on to something with your obsevation and perhaps in a future article I’ll share more about what this particular homeless guy has told me….

    • Love this angle, TJ, on a great post. I think it’s sometimes too easy to read the same meaning into words we use often, like choice, love, living. to express where we think we are in life… It’s such a multi-faceted life in so many ways, I sometimes think it’s a miracle that we all still manage to communicate with a language that I am not sure it always up to speed!
      And thanks Kenneth, always love reading your posts 🙂

  12. Allowing everyone to make their own decisions and live by them is often difficult for many of us. But it’s something we need to learn to do.

  13. Great post! I, like you, find myself wondering why people choose to not ‘WANT’ to better themselves constantly. I find a little hard work rewarding and satisfying and I often wonder if some people ever feel that feeling. At the end of the day, do you feel PROUD? You may feel content. You may be ‘okay’ or satisfied, but are you happy? Content? Are you setting an example for those that learn from you? Are you living your life to its full potential? Hopefully we are all living it to the fullest. No one is perfect. But I will say one thing. Effort and hard work are sexy. I understand people being hard up. Life is tough. But there is a fine line, (and I think its blurry to some people), between needing help and being lazy.

  14. Some homeless folk also have hidden issues; in vets it is often PTSD. People think PTSD is always devastatingly apparent; it is not. And not only veterans have such mental traumas dogging their heels; sometimes maintaining the mental map to a shelter and where to get alcohol, cigs, and food the cheapest ARE all a homeless man or woman can manage. It is not that every homeless sort living an apparent easy life is irresponsible — it is more likely life has already sucked dry their “responsible” quota.

    I look at my “responsible” life another way. Perhaps the only reason we “maintain” is so we can help those that life has already crumpled into a near-gutter? What if it is the human version of snowpack in winter to provide water in summer? What if I/we only have what we work for in an often fickle world so we can share it?

    • And vets aren’t the only ones suffering from PTSD… I have, and do. Worked with a counselor for a solid year just on that (out of 28-29 years in the system). I don’t mean to say that my traumas are comparable to that of a veteran, because, they’re not, and I have talked to enough friends that have served, that I can appreciate the distinction. But, it’s still a reality for me.

      Yes, these traumas, among other mental health issues– are often pretty invisible, and not easy for people to see at all.

    • Trauma is drama regardless of the source. All PTSD patients suffer, some, those told they do not have PTSD because they are not combat veterans, may suffer an extra portion.

    • One of my p-docs said I was dealing with such, but I really didn’t start effective treatment with a counselor until about a few years ago. This counselor had to leave the profession to take care of an aging parent (I didn’t feel ready!) but I was relieved to get the help I did.

    • Sometimes it takes a long time to seek that much needed help. Especially when there is so much in our society that tells you denial is the better part.

    • p.s. thank you for your affirming acknowledgment

    • You’re welcome. I live with a veteran with PTSD and I have PTSD myself.

  15. You seem to drink way too many coffees, Culture Monk, I can imagine you as a gibbering caffeine addict starting conversations with anyone whilst high on your tenth expresso of the day. Either you work at that cafe or I think you should cut down. 😉

  16. I must admit, I would have asked the same questions or at the very least thought them in my head. We shouldn’t judge others, but it does make you wonder why someone would live that way, if they had a choice to live differently.

    It’s interesting because I was having a similar conversation with a woman the other day. She and I were in agreement on that government assistance is helpful in times of need. But, it is not meant to be a lifestyle.

    I agree with you that paying bills can be burdensome, but nothing can compare to the peace of having security in life. Considering that, I’m very thankful for responsibilities and house payments.

    • “It’s interesting because I was having a similar conversation with a woman the other day. She and I were in agreement on that government assistance is helpful in times of need. But, it is not meant to be a lifestyle. ”

      I think a lot of us probably think very similarly on this subject….but to find a solution that is fair and just at all times with all people….well that is very difficult unfortunately

  17. I won’t enter any comments on this man’s “choice” to live the way he does, or his government paycheck, because…I am not wearing his shoes, I am not inside his head or his heart, so I can not for a moment think that I have any true knowledge on which to base my opinion/judgement. I will say, that living in any kind of poverty in our society seems to bring opinions and judgement from many. I know this much, poverty of money is difficult, poverty of understanding within our society is a much deeper pain. I know this because I experience it every day. Our only response to anyone no matter their lifestyle is to show them love.

    • “I will say, that living in any kind of poverty in our society seems to bring opinions and judgement from many”

      this is so true; hell, every time one of the homeless people walk into the bathroom at the coffee shop I see the other patrons make nasty faces; as though the homeless shouldn’t be allowed to use public bathrooms!

    • My husband lost his job last year, and as we were about to become homeless I began a fundraising page. I was unable to go work because of illness and I had a couple “friends” make some really nasty remarks about my asking for help. I felt so ashamed I took down the page. Luckily there were a couple real friends who pulled together and helped us stay in our home.

  18. When I was in high school, I was so dead set on my dreams (and I still am) that I often told my father I wouldn’t care if I lived in a box so long as I was happy. Every time he would get this worried look on his face and tell me “but you wouldn’t be happy living in a box.” I wonder if he thought of people like that man and feared I’d be like him. I can’t say I agree with how he chooses to live his life, but if that’s what makes him happy, I’m not going to judge. My goals for 2014 involve waking up before the sun just so I can get a few hours of serious writing in. Some people would question the ability of that choice to lead to happiness as well.

    I think the take away from this conversation is that a person’s road to happiness is as unique as the individual.

    • Tk,

      when my dad was alive that was exactly the type of thing he said to me as well; ultimately though, my dad wanted me to pursue my dreams….but like your dad said, he didn’t want me to live in a cardboard box.

      “a person’s road to happiness is as unique as the individual”

      right on

  19. lol. I am sure he keeps the coffee balanced – but was just telling my hubby that I have never bumped into anyone interesting at the cafes we go to – maybe it is a Michigan thing. …. or just a monk thing –

    • I dunno…..I’ve been in coffee shops all over the world and I swear its really easy to meet people….I would wager to say that 90% of the time I’m just sitting there and people lean over and say hello and start talking……I think its more a matter of frequency; the more you hang out at a café the higher the chances you will meet someone knew; if I only went once a month then I might never meet anyone….but I hang out at a few cafes all the time 🙂

  20. Well said,Kind Sir, I totally agree; I am always astonished when I see people who so obviously don’t want to ‘help themselves’ but rather want others to do the ‘helping’ for them. That being said,like yourself,I do feel a kind of pity/sadness for these people who perhaps were never fortunate enough to receive proper guidance,growing up.Indeed there will always be,those lazy types who don’t much care for work. But it ‘takes all sorts to make a world’ I suppose. 🙂 Great Article.

  21. This is a great post. So many times we run into the homeless without ever getting to know them or their circumstances. No, this gentlemen’s lifestyle would not be my choice for a way to live, but I try very hard not to be judgmental about other peoples choices, especially when I am not walking in their shoes.

  22. There are big differences between choosing to be in a situation like this and becoming accepting of it. There are usually complex reasons for why all of us are in the position we’re in – even if some people themselves seem simple.

    I haven’t been on here for a while but your blog never disappoints! Great post.

    • ‘complex’ is the key point

      Actually, the guy I wrote about as many complex aspects to why he is homeless…but as with many of us it would take many many pages to figure it all out

  23. It’s funny that once I met a homeless at one of my favorite cafe. I was sitting between the homeless and this smart, handsome man. Speechless staring at the homeless refilling his tea cup, his nails were black polished, minding his one business in his own lonely world. Fortunately , the handsome gentleman broke the silence and said : he is homeless , the owner gives him free refill, also offered him a job, but he refuses, he like his life the way it is..homeless. I felt sad and confused how someone chooses the weeds instead of the roses .
    Many times we ignore them, rushed in our own busy day, because we know that little attention, help, or conversation won’t change their life, but what we fail to realize is that simple kindness will bring a smile, might even encourage them to get out of desolate place.
    Very sweet and generous of you spending some time and buying him coffee on his birthday, I’m sure he won’t forget that day or you.

  24. Having spent some time studying a bit of the Eastern paths, especially Taoism as to the philosophical school, in addition to my usual religious studies, I figure that we all have a place and meaning in this life.

    I too don’t envy this guy– I don’t think I could manage to carry my wife and children along on such a path. Yet if I understand you right, it seems he’s comfortable with his niche in this world, and I would say it has worth and meaning, even if it doesn’t seem to have a lot of value to you or I.

    • Years ago I helped out at a homeless shelter for families; this was an incredibly tough experience for me because I had to watch parents and children living together in these shelters; the dad’s would leave to go to work and since the mothers and kids couldn’t stay at the shelter during the day; the bus would drop them off at the mall and they would wander around all day till they could come back to the shelter at night……I’m tearing up simply thinking about it….I can’t imagine how tough that life was for those families.

  25. Does any one out there see this homeless man’s predicament simply his servant’s response to state legislated realities? The state has outfoxed the unassuming to accept “their” state religion. Everyone has religion. This gentleman is content to live within his master’s fold at his public trough. He’s a model student in our new and improved land of the free and home of the brave. Unknown gods bless the state accordingly that refuses to acknowledge his ultimate holy authority.

  26. I can relate to your urge to help a friend “wake up”, but like you said it felt like “imposing”. If you ask me, speak the truth in love, my friend 🙂 A vision is not something you only see, but an act you invest on to pursue. I’ve asked myself the question, “why can’t this person change?”, but the thought hit right back at me. It was the way I treated the person that needed change and that change even if he doesn’t notice, I’ll keep being. It’s called grace by the way 😀
    P.S. Thanks for liking my poem at

  27. There is a clear difference between being homeless and being solitary. Not all solitary people are homeless, and most solitary people do have jobs and do have families and responsibilities, but choose to stay mostly to themselves.

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