by Kenneth Justice
~ “Dude, she is totally wasted!”
Last night we got dinner along the shore of the Caribbean at a little beach side restaurant/bar and I noticed that one of the young women sitting at the bar (not the woman in the photograph) was someone I had seen a couple hours earlier on the beach….she had been sitting on the beach a few hours before and drank two bottles of Jack Daniels all by herself.
Now, here she was sitting at the bar and she was drinking alcohol like it was water, “Dude, she is totally wasted” my friend said to me. The young woman had four men surrounding her…and they were all buying her drinks…..each of them hoping to be the one she would appoint has her late night rendezvous of sorts.
Each time the young lady went to stand up she would almost practically fall over and one of the guys had to help stabilize her. My friend and I finished dinner and by now we had sat and watched the young woman swallow so many drinks we lost count. When she wasn’t looking, the guys kept slapping each other on the back…they thought it was hilarious that this barely 20ish girl was going to give one of them a ‘really’ good night.
At about 10pm the young woman motioned to the guys that she needed to use the bathroom and she somehow waddled away from the table. With her gone from the table for a moment the guys began hooting and hollering with excitement as they were all locals and here was that ‘storybook’ moment when a local guy was gonna get to take to bed a young hot American girl…….
But then, out of the corner of my eye I noticed that as soon as the young woman walked into the bathroom…..she turned right back out and made a beeline straight to the street and jumped into the first taxi that was sitting near the exit. Apparently, as tipsy as the young woman might have been……she still had enough wits about her to know how to ditch the four local guys who had been buying her drinks; fake/pretend that you need to use the bathroom and sneak out when nobody is looking (well…..of course The Culture Monk was looking since I don’t seem to have much anything else to do with my life besides my obsession with observing culture). The guys never saw her leave….and after ten minutes they walked into the Women’s bathroom only to find it empty.
To be fair, I’m extremely laid back when it comes to sex. I’ve never been one to try and force my view upon others…..I’ve always believed that each person needs to figure out their own stance on the subject of sexual behavior……
BUT, I do have a problem with guys who participate in getting girls drunk (hammered) in order to have sex with them. Were these guys entirely at fault? No, like I said, I had seen this girl drinking all afternoon before she even met these local guys……..but nonetheless, getting a woman drunk in order to get into her pants seems pretty pathetic….doesn’t it?
There’s nothing really unique about the situation I’m writing about as it is something that happens every day whether you live in Ireland, Chicago, New York….or the suburbs of Philadelphia……..alcohol is the preferred intoxicant to lower the inhibitions of both young women and men.
However, just because something is ‘common’…..doesn’t mean its okay to do…..does it? I’m all about being open and honest with children because I’ve always been convinced that the more you shelter your children….the more difficult time they will have living in this world……So what will you say to your children about drinking alcohol in public? Its okay to do….but be safe? Its okay to get drunk if that’s what you want to do….but beware of the consequences?
There is one thing that is different about the situation that occurred this evening; if a young U.S. woman gets too drunk in a foreign country and finds herself in a situation that she doesn’t want to be in……..she doesn’t necessarily have her parents living down the street to come bale her out.
Many years ago I used to have a co-worker who was very proud of the fact that whenever he wanted to ‘get laid’ he would simply get his live-in girlfriend drunk. It always amazed me to no end that the only way his girlfriend would sleep with him was if she was inebriated……it made me wonder what kind of relationship they actually had.
Is that normal? To only sleep with your significant other if you are s**t faced? Is it healthy? While I’m not against alcohol at all……isn’t sex just as fun (if not more) when you are aware of what is going on?
The young woman at the bar had obviously made up her mind earlier in the night that she wasn’t going to home with one of these guys…….and she knew just how to sneak away. But every other woman in that situation might not be able to do the same thing…….I wonder what the average parent tells their daughter; “never get hammered at a public bar?”
Just a few thoughts as I sipped my coffee this evening and watched things play out before my eyes,
Categories: Drinking in the Culture