by Kenneth Justice
~What will your legacy be?
That is something I’ve been thinking about for some time. Ever since my father died in 2008 I’ve been pondering the meaning of what it is to leave a legacy.
How do you want people to remember you?
I’ve recently watched quite a few documentaries on Bob Marley and a picture has been forming in my mind about the man; he wanted to be remembered by,
–> the love he had for his family and friends
–> the passion he had for music
–> his commitment toward the freedom and equality of all people
–> and his love for Africa
I’ve talked quite a bit about the fast paced nature of life here in Western Culture because I believe it is this fast food frenzy paced way of life that leaves many of us feeling a tad bit overwhelmed.
Perhaps you are thinking; “Kenneth, you want me to think about life legacy today? I barely have enough time each day to brush my teeth and put on clean clothes!”
Unfortunately, many people are in that same boat; they are so busy, so conflicted with day-to-day responsibilities, and so overwhelmed with merely keeping their head above water that they are thankful to put their head on a pillow at the end of the day and breathe a sigh of relief that they made it through the day alive.
I don’t have any simple solutions…..
I realize life is fast paced……but is that really what we want to leave as our legacy, is that how we want our children to remember us; “my mother was overwhelmed”
In my days as a college student studying counseling I was taught to help people learn that they can be happier if they slow down their life…..
You can’t control traffic….but you can change how you react to it
–> A slower-paced life means enjoying your mornings…instead of rushing off to work
–> A slower-paced life leads to more meaningful conversations with your friends and family….instead of 40 character text message conversations
–> A slower-paced life leads to more meaningful moments, building memories that will cement a positive legacy
How do you want your friends and family to remember you?
Do you want people to remember you as the person who was always critical and never encouraging?
Do you want people to remember you as the person who always held grudges and never forgave?
Do you want people to remember you as the person who always talked and never listened?
Each day that we are blessed to live is an opportunity to add positive building blocks to our life legacy……
And to borrow the colloquialism, ‘the quality of the bricks we use will determine the quality of the structure we are building’
I think about legacy a lot because I witnessed the death of my father. It impacted my life quite a bit. His death was the reason I went back to school and finished my degrees in psychology and counseling. His death initiated a drive within me….to do something more with my life.
George Eliot said, “It is never too late to be what you might have been”
It is never too late to realize that life is precious…..life is fleeting…..life is over before you know it!
How do you want to be remembered?
I suspect one thing my children will remember by is my love for coffee, which reminds me, I think I will have another cup.
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