~ Yesterday I was sitting at coffee and three women were chatting at the table next to me. One of the women had stopped by the table to “show off” the recent cosmetic surgery operation she’d undergone; breast augmentation. After the woman with new breasts left, the two women immediately began gossiping about her,
“Why would she go and do that! They look ridiculous and fake!” said woman number one
“I know! Now she is scarred for life. Her children probably think she looks ridiculous! I feel so bad for them, their mother going through a midlife crisis, and now the whole world knows! I can’t wait to the girls at work how awful they look when I see them tomorrow, they’re gonna laugh about it so hard!” said woman number two
In many ways the whole scene that played out in front of me was pretty ridiculous. When the girl with the new boobs was sitting at the table, her friends went at great length to tell her how good they looked. Yet the minute she left, they immediately started ripping her. What did they really think; I’ll never know. Stranger still was how much delight the two women got from ripping on their friend. I guess it makes people feel good to make fun of others behind their back.
I’ve often thought to myself that it seems like it is much more difficult to be a woman in the world than a man. It took women thousands of years to merely get the right to vote, and even still there are a lot of men in other countries who still refuse to allow women to vote or hold political office. For most of humanity’s history women have been second class citizens, and even in the modern Western World, women are in many ways discriminated against; they are judged by their appearance much more than men, and they are looked down upon as being inferior to men in many instances.
When women are portrayed in art, they are almost always objectified for their physical appearance. If you see a woman in a painting, a movie, or a photograph, your first observation (albeit unconsciously perhaps) is to ask yourself whether or not you think the woman is ‘pretty’. Yet men in art and film are portrayed in an altogether different manner; the viewer is encouraged to look at the man as being physically strong, or intellectually smart. We are taught to view women differently than the way we view men.
I recently got into a conversation with a dude who believes women should NOT be the primary ‘bread winner’ for a household, “Men are the ones who should earn the most money, that is the way it should be” he said. Perhaps it is from a sense of fear that men say things like that; perhaps they are afraid of women being in charge for fear of women doing a better job. After all, most wars are not fought or initiated by women; it is men who are the primary causes of stupid conflict that wages throughout the world. Perhaps if women were in charge there would be less war and needless death.
It is sad that so many women feel compelled to undergo surgeries, like breast augmentation. Are they really undergoing these surgeries because “they” want to do it, or are they getting these surgeries done because society makes them feel “incomplete” or “not pretty enough”?
The women at the table spent a good twenty minutes or so ripping on their friend until they changed the subject to clothes and makeup and going to the spa and other physical enhancement subjects. It seemed odd to me that they could spend so much much time making fun of their friend for her boobs, when it seemed to me that they spend just as much time on their looks as well.
Just a few thoughts as I sipped my coffee,
Categories: Culture & Society