~ Yesterday at coffee my good friend and I were deep in conversation when a group of young women sat a few tables across from us. Normally, if a bunch of people are sitting across from us their conversation disappears into the mix of all the coffee conversations, but these five college age women were especially loud and soon my buddy and I became more engrossed in one of the girl’s story.
Apparently, she had gone on a date with a guy who she met on a Internet dating site. I guess the date must have gone well because later that night the dude ended up at her place and they in the midst of…..well you know….until she found out the guy was on the small size. According to her story to the friends sitting at her table, she laughed at him, which caused the guy to be humiliated, and at that point the date was over.
“Good for you girl, don’t waste your time on a small fry” said one of her friends, and their table erupted in laughter.
For the next fifteen minutes these girls obnoxiously filled the entire coffee shop with the subject of how important they believe “size matters” and finally my friend and I, and most of the other patrons, started leaving. It was an R-rated conversation they were having in public, and entirely inappropriate for the the the type of coffee shop we were sitting.
I realize that young adults have a heightened interest in the subject of sex. It is something they have only recently begun investigating. Whether merely something they’ve started to think about, or perhaps they are considering marriage, or simply have a serious relationship with someone. However, it seems to me that the focus on physical appearance that exists in Western Culture has become entirely absurd.
I run into so many different people who talk about physical looks, that if I wanted I could write an original article every single day for five years and never run out of material. Young men are constantly talking about how women look, the size of their boobs, their weight, and every other aspect of physicality. And more often than not lately, young women are also discussing a guy’s looks, and <gasp> the size of his you-know-what.
Where has society gone wrong? Why is it that more attention is given to physical appearance than to intellectuality? As a young adult, shouldn’t one be more interested in whether their potential mate has any commonsense or wisdom? Shouldn’t the ability to think logical thoughts or demonstrate compassion and kindness be more important factors in a mate than the size of their boobs or dick?
“Kenneth and Kylie, attractive people have it much easier in life” said a guest on a recent LiveStream show we recorded. Is our guest right? Do attractive people have it easier in life? Do women with attractive bodies and sharp curves have it easier than women who don’t fit the bill of “beautiful” in our culture?
I’ve often wondered if the problem is that we pack our children together in high schools. For most of their teenage years they are stuck like sardines with other young adults; and they are force fed a narrative that is simply not true. High school is a period of life when the best looking woman becomes prom queen, and the most handsome and athletic guy is the captain of the football squad. However, that is not real life.
In real life, virtue is more important than looks. Wisdom, intellect, and a good work ethic is what helps people succeed in real life. While there is an element of good looks that definitely helps people move ahead as adults, it only gets you so far. If you are a crappy worker, if you show up late, or can’t handle a conversation well, then you simply won’t get very far in life.
I don’t feel bad for the guy who got laughed at for the size of his Johnson. You see, trying to hook up with a girl on the very first date says a lot to me about the dude’s character. How much interest could he have possibly demonstrated in the young woman on a single date? How much could they have possible discussed in such a short time? Do I really think the guy cared about her as a person, or was he more interested in her as a piece of flesh? Perhaps the reason the girl threw him under the bus to her friends, was because in her heart she realized she was nothing but another “score” for that guy, and there was something in her that didn’t like that idea.
Just a few thoughts as I sipped my coffee,
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