~ At coffee the other day, a friend of mine was talking about the great advancements women have experienced in the area of sexuality,
“Back in the old world, men used to be allowed to rape their wife; they could make their wife have sex even if she didn’t want to, and back in the old world, women generally didn’t enjoy sex” he said.
As I listened to my friend, I couldn’t help but be amazed at how brainwashed people in our day and age have become……because everything my friend was saying was totally untrue.
A typical phenomenon that occurs in most ages, is that people like to believe that their particular country or their particular era “is the best”. I suppose there is nothing wrong with having a certain sense of pride in the era that you grew up in, or the country that you were born, but unfortunately, for most people that pride leads them to buying into a great deal of rubbish as far as the truth of history.
For people born into 20th century America, there is a predominant idea that permeates our culture, it is a narrative that goes something like this;
Before modern innovations of thought in psychology and politics, the world was an evil place for women to live. Men bought and sold women as property and treated women as nothing more than cattle. Men would have sex with women and the women would just lay there, loathing every moment of it, waiting for the man to finish so she could be rid of his awful stinking piece of flesh. Women had no say in sexuality, and generally, it wasn’t until the women’s liberation movement of the 20th century that women were finally told they could get enjoyment out of sex
Of course, the narrative might differ in small details, but you get the general idea; people think that it is only thanks to the feminist movement that they have enjoyed great strides in sexual ethos…..but this is merely one big piece of hogwash that is based in the ethnocentric views of modernity.
The truth of the matter is that women by and large throughout the ages, enjoyed sex. During the colonial era of the United States, religious groups like the Puritans wholeheartedly endorsed the joys of having sex. While of course the Christians taught and believed sex should be reserved for two married people, they nonetheless believed that women should and could enjoy sex just as much as men.
Puritan women loved sex so much, that in many New England communities, studies have shown that 1 in 3 children were born out of wedlock during the 18th century. The parents had a hard time keeping their daughters (and sons) from having sex before they got married.
The examples from actual research studies on the subject of women and sex throughout history is so great, it is rather baffling that people are still buying into the lie that women in the past didn’t used to enjoy sex.
I suppose there are a number of reasons as to why people have major misconceptions about the past;
—) Because 90% of people in the past were farmers, having as many children as possible (free labor for the farm) was a big deal. So perhaps people in our day and age mistake the necessity behind sex as procreation in the ancient world as an indication that women only had sex to have children
—) As I said earlier, people tend to believe their particular country or era that they grew up in is the best of all era’s. So people living in 2016 gravitate toward believing that things could not have possibly been better in the past.
However, one of the main reasons for the revisionist history that people are being taught about sex and women is likely due to a simple issue; women are more miserable in our day and age than ever before.
You see, with all the advancements of the feminist movement (and many of those advancements have been good!), women in the 21st century are experiencing the highest rates of depression and mental disorders than in the history of the earth. Despite the fact that more women graduate college nowadays than men, depression, anxiety, loneliness, and feelings of disconnectedness are ravaging our communities.
If you read any of the daily NEWS rags, you’ll know that you can’t go a day without reading studies that chart the disconnectedness that people experience, and how even people who are married and dating; are still lonely. Researchers have been trying to figure out the secrets to satisfying sex and they keep coming up short. Relationships these days seem to last about as long as it takes to turn the channel. Women in relationships (whether married or dating) often report very high rates of sexual discontent.
It seems like everywhere we turn, Western Culture continues to move down a path toward chaos. Nothing makes any sense.
There is of course a simple answer to all of this; perhaps we have been focusing on the wrong thing.
I would suggest that one of the great lies Western Culture has proselytized is the idea that sex is the end all and be all.
If you watch a movie, whether romance or action, having sex is one of the central themes of the entire movie. If you watch a shampoo commercial or see a billboard add, you can’t help but be bombarded with sexual images.
Our culture is obsessed with sex. We think that sex is somehow the greatest thing that exists…..and if I haven’t annoyed you yet, wait till you read my next sentence; sex is not the greatest thing that exists.
And that then is where the seeds of the lie are found; in the modern world we are taught to believe that our era is the greatest era ever, but when we look at society, it leaves a lot to be desired. Perhaps everything we’ve been taught about the past and the present needs to be questioned; perhaps we aren’t doing things right in the modern world.
There are more important things in life than sex, and people in the old world knew that simple truth. Unfortunately for a culture that worships at the feet of the god Eros, I doubt anyone cares what I have to say…..
Just a few thoughts as I sipped my coffee,
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