~ At coffee the other day a Pastor who had heard of me and my blog asked to sit down at my table,
“I was wondering if you could give me some pointers on how to create a successful blog” the pastor said.
I explained to him that I’m probably the last person to come to for advice since over the course of the past couple years I’ve done everything wrong when it comes to the rules of the blogging game;
—) I deleted my Facebook and Twitter accounts because I got sick of all the nasty people and gossip that takes place on those social networks
—) I’m really bad about responding to emails from readers
—) I hardly ever talk about specific “NEWS” stories, and since most of what people go on the Internet to read is politics, world events, and other such stories, I lose out on a massive amount of traffic
—) And my biggest blunder of all, is I don’t talk about sex every week, and we all know that blogs that talk about sex get the highest amount of traffic
With the release of my first novel coming up on March 1st, it is kind of funny that I gave up both my Twitter and Facebook accounts because I had nearly 30,000 followers through those two accounts alone…..that would have been a nice audience to market my book to….
However, I didn’t write a book to make a bunch of money. As I said in another post, I actually wrote the book to try to convey some ideas to a friend of mine. We kept having the same conversation and for some reason he couldn’t grasp what I was trying to say……so I wrote a story in order to convey to him my thoughts on the dangers of the Internet and technology.
We all know that sex sells, but it wasn’t until a pastor out in Seattle built one of the largest churches in the United States that I realized sex sells when your a pastor as well. You see, this pastor dude out in Seattle would talk frankly about sex from the stage; he would discuss any element of sex, right down to sexual positions, oral sex….everything. In less than ten years he became the rock star pastor of Seattle and was publishing books, speaking at conferences….he was a star. But the whole thing came crashing down on the guy. A big scandal ensued; a lot of people are hurt by the pastor’s actions, and now he is in Arizona trying to start a new church in Phoenix.
In writing my little novel, I could have thrown heavy elements of sex in it to make it more marketable…..but then I thought, “What kind of book do I want to leave for my great great great grandchildren?” Do I want future generations to remember me as someone who sold out to the desires of Western Culture in order to sell more books?
I’m not condemning books like 50 Shades of Grey…not at all (although I’ve never read it). But what I’m saying is that writing a story about people having intimate sexual encounters is simply not who I am.
If you’re someone who enjoys writing or reading books like Tropic of Cancer or 50 Shades of Grey, then more power to you. As they say, “different strokes for different folks”. That is simply not my thing…..it makes me think about the pastor that sat down at coffee with me….maybe I’m wrong, but it seemed like he was really obsessed with becoming popular; and I wonder, should a pastor’s motivation be all about himself (or herself)? Should a pastor be motivated to speak at conferences, to be seen by people, or to have a large following?
Shouldn’t a pastor be motivated by his love for people?
We live in a lonely culture. The majority of people in Western Society are depressed, lonely, or disconnected. They don’t need rock star pastors to get up on stage to preach at them. People need pastors who minister to them through friendship.
—) People need men and women who take the time to get coffee one-on-one and talk about life.
—) People need pastors who are less concerned with preaching the Sunday sermon, and more concerned with spending time with people behind the scenes.
—) People need pastors who have a servants heart
—) People need pastors who spend the majority of their time with people have everyday conversations about life, love, finances, and dealing with the real issues that are going on people’s lives.
People actually need pastors who talk to them about sex……but not merely to get attention on stage. They need pastors who talk to them about their sex lives in normal coffee house conversations. They need pastors who talk about real life.
Let’s be honest. Church has pretty much become all but irrelevant in our society. Throughout most of Europe church attendance is all but nonexistent, and in the United States, church attendance is in fast decline. You would think that pastors would notice this trend and rethink what they are doing….but I guess a lot of pastors have big egos; they are more concerned about being up on stage than getting down and dirty in coffee houses with people.
But then again, what do I know?
Actually….what I do know, is that thanks to great work by my editor….my first book The Culture will go on sale March 1st!!! Stay tuned for more information.
Categories: Culture & Society